I’ve been having a bit of an epiphany in the last several months. I think it may have started with The Happiness Project, and several other work happenings have continued to spur it on, but I’ve been thinking a lot about how I live my day to day life, and how much my perception can affect how I feel at work and home. I’ve realized that for me to be happy and feel better, I not only have to work on remembering to do the little things I enjoy and improving my relationships (which are both important.) I also have to let go of some of the fear and anxiety I’ve been holding on to. I’m an engineer, and my entire career and college experience has taken place in a male dominated environment. In my classes, my male schoolmates always seemed to know more than me, so I just assumed that they did. Time after time, I would get my grades back only to realize that I was doing better than my study partner John or my lab mate Steve, even if outward appearances didn’t show it. Since I’ve started my career, I’ve been consistently paralyzed by fear that I didn’t know what I was doing. What if my calculations are wrong? What if this report isn’t good enough? Even more so when I’m in the field (which happens quite often) and there is literally no safety net. And it seemed like all of the male coworkers knew so much more than I did. More recently, I’ve decided to stop worrying so much about if I’m wrong. When I read this article the other day, it really hit home. It says exactly what I’ve slowly started to realize. Men, in general, have more confidence than women. Even if they don’t really know what they are talking about, they tend to think that they do, or that they at least know more than us. This has been a huge inhibitor in the success of women in upper level roles because we simply don’t feel like we should be there or are afraid to speak up because we think we might be wrong. This is so maddening to me, but it makes so much sense. I’ve decided to let go of the fear and start believing in myself and my abilities. Here are some kick ass women to get us inspired. And if you have a couple of free minutes, you really should read this. It will blow your mind.