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Lessons Learned from Rory Gilmore

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Happy New Year friends! Megan and I have had a wonderful holiday season filled with friends, family, and Christmas cookies. Things are busy. But you guys know that, since you are busy too. In addition to our job jobs, I have been doing photography things and learning web development (slowly but surely), and Megan has been calligraphying up a storm. Also, Megan’s wedding is mere months away and we are starting to freak out about it a little. I’m sure it will be fine but needless to say that every weekend from here on out will be booked. Another important event that has happened in my life is that I discovered a little show by the name of the Gilmore Girls. I didn’t watch it when it was on TV because I guess I was too cool for it, but I renounce all of that now. I was stupid and I apologize because Rory and Lorelai are the role models I should have had all this time, and I didn’t know what I was missing. To make up for my mistakes, I have decided to list the five things that I have learned from watching Rory grow up. By the way, I’m not all the way through the series yet so NO SPOILERS.

Don’t take stupid advice. In Season 5, Rory interns at a newspaper owned by her boyfriend Logan’s famous fancy newspaper mogul father Mitchum Huntzberger. After what seems like 30 minutes, Mitchum decides that Rory doesn’t have “what it takes” to be in the newspaper business and should try to do something else. Rory has spent her whole life working to be the next Christiane Amanpour: becoming Valedictorian in high school, getting into Yale, kicking ass at Yale, and now this fool has decided with little to no information that she is not cut out for it. Rory is obviously devastated and then proceeds to drop out of Yale to find herself. What do I get out of this? Don’t let some fool decide your worth, even if he is an important fool. Because obviously Rory snaps out of it and gets back to kicking ass several episodes later.


It’s ok to get lost. So Rory takes this break to find herself, which seems like a dire situation, but I actually don’t blame her. College comes so early in life, way before you actually figure out who you are. Let’s be honest, I’m still figuring out who I am. How the hell are we supposed to know what we want to do with the rest of our lives? The true truth is that most of the time we don’t, which is why so many people hate their jobs. Her time away from school just made her more sure about her career path.


Be assertive. After she snaps back into it and decides to go back to school, she get a job at the same newspaper she interned at before (without Mitchum there) by pretty much hanging around in the lobby waiting to meet with the boss even after he says no. Certainly I could use a little bit of that moxie in my life.


Don’t let stupid boys get in your way. Other than several wayward moments, Rory never lets any of her boyfriends get in the way of her goals. I am so sick of these Bella Swan and princess characters that teach the younger generation of girls to wait around for the boys to make all the decisions and do all of the work. What good does that do anyone? None.


Eat cake when possible. Obviously. Never were there truer words spoken.9fade6beaae4628c2cec6ae122873dfc

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Listening to…

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Hi friends!  While Meg and Chris have been Harry Pottering it up, Corey and I took a quick trip to see one of our favorite cousins in Alabama (hi Jean!!)  Megan had some very exciting news, but I will keep my trap shut until she can come tell you herself.  So onto today’s scheduled programming.

Ever since I listened to Serial, I have become a little bit obsessed with listening to books, podcasts, and really anything audio that I can get my hands on.  I guess I realized how much more efficiently I can get little tasks completed if I am entertained while doing them.  Organized drawers?  Check.  Painted dresser?  Check.  Organized mess of a storage closet?  Check.  I’m like Monica from Friends except sans label maker.  But I’m not above considering it.  Anyway, I wanted to share some of my favorites because there are some real gems.

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#GirlBoss – The first time I saw this one at the bookstore, I thought the hashtag in the title was a little lame.  But I just finished it today and I am feeling energized.  The book is written by the CEO of NastyGal (which honestly I had never heard of), and how she started selling vintage ebay clothes out of her bedroom and turned her little business into a hugely successful company.  I really love how Sophia kept reiterating how she became successful from just a ton of really hard work.  Sure she was lucky, but she made things happen for herself and didn’t take no for an answer.  I feel like this book is a good swift kick in the pants that we are in control of our destiny and a much needed remember that my most powerful advocate is me.

The Invention of Wings – This book was so inspiringly beautiful.  It is actually about two real sisters who were among the first female abolitionists and feminists from Charleston.  It is a fictional account of one of this sister’s relationship with her slave, and how they lived the life they wanted to live instead of the one given to them.  I won’t give anything away, but this is a must read.

This American Life – I’ve tried to fill the empty hole that Serial left with This American Life, which has actually been around for a long time and I think is one of the most popular podcasts.  Each episode is a different story (vs. Serial which was obviously one story for the whole season) and the reporting is really excellent.  Listen to Batman, Is this Working?, and Harper High School Episode 1 and Episode 2.  Mind.  Blown.

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The Confidence Gap

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

I’ve been having a bit of an epiphany in the last several months.  I think it may have started with The Happiness Project, and several other work happenings have continued to spur it on, but I’ve been thinking a lot about how I live my day to day life, and how much my perception can affect how I feel at work and home.  I’ve realized that for me to be happy and feel better, I not only have to work on remembering to do the little things I enjoy and improving my relationships (which are both important.)  I also have to let go of some of the fear and anxiety I’ve been holding on to. I’m an engineer, and my entire career and college experience has taken place in a male dominated environment.  In my classes, my male schoolmates always seemed to know more than me, so I just assumed that they did.  Time after time, I would get my grades back only to realize that I was doing better than my study partner John or my lab mate Steve, even if outward appearances didn’t show it.  Since I’ve started my career, I’ve been consistently paralyzed by fear that I didn’t know what I was doing.  What if my calculations are wrong?  What if this report isn’t good enough?  Even more so when I’m in the field (which happens quite often) and there is literally no safety net.  And it seemed like all of the male coworkers knew so much more than I did.  More recently, I’ve decided to stop worrying so much about if I’m wrong.  When I read this article the other day, it really hit home.  It says exactly what I’ve slowly started to realize.  Men, in general, have more confidence than women.  Even if they don’t really know what they are talking about, they tend to think that they do, or that they at least know more than us.  This has been a huge inhibitor in the success of women in upper level roles because we simply don’t feel like we should be there or are afraid to speak up because we think we might be wrong.  This is so maddening to me, but it makes so much sense.  I’ve decided to let go of the fear and start believing in myself and my abilities.  Here are some kick ass women to get us inspired.  And if you have a couple of free minutes, you really should read this.  It will blow your mind.





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