Feminine Friday – Guess Who

Friday, March 27, 2015

Happy Friday!  Just wanted to pop in for q quick little post about a story I heard this week.  Now this is an old story.  Several years old.  So some of you may have heard about it and if you did, then I apologize for my being late to the game.  Anyways, this story is near and dear to me because of my day job.  For those of you that don’t know, I am a speech therapist.  Sometimes when I work on certain skills, I use board games for motivational purposes.  Basically to make things more fun.  One I use pretty often is the game Guess Who.  I have the old school version.  Now Guess Who is also a pretty great game for teaching language skills actually.  Kids have to look at the people and identify characteristics that are different about them, they have to use reasoning skills to figure out which people to knock down once you answer their questions, they have to formulate an appropriate question and honestly I could go on and on.  What I am trying to say is that I really like this game for speech therapy.  What I have always hated about this game is that if someone gets a girl as their “person,” they are ultimately doomed to failure.  That’s because there are 5 girls in this game and 19 boys.  Really.  I have never seen anyone win with a girl and I’ve played this game more often than I would like to admit.  In some of my less aware moments, I have even encouraged my little speech kiddos that are girls NOT to pick girls.  Because girl equals losing the game.  Y’all.  What a giant crock that is.  So all of these years of being annoyed about the inequality of this game, I have just kept on using it and accepted this idiocy as just the way the cookie crumbles.  So when I read about this six year old little girl who took matters into her own hands, I was exceptionally impressed.  She (with the help of her mom) wrote a letter to the company to share her disgust with the whole thing.  Here it is.

guess whoUm, yes.  I feel cross about that as well, R.  I am so glad that a six year old can see the stupidity in this.  Honestly, these kinds of stories give me much hope for our little girls in the future.  If something seems unfair to you, go on and throw it out the window.  Obviously Hasbro wrote back with some dumb excuse about numerical equations.  And then R was like, mom what the crap are they talking about.  So R’s mom wrote back and told them their response was a bunch of buffoonery and completely inappropriate for a 6 year old.  To which they responded they would consider adding more girls in the future.  Well we certainly hope so.  If you would like to read the letters from Hasbro and Jennifer’s mom (it’s a winner), here is a story that goes into more details.

Now I will go about my Friday hoping to kick as much ass as a six year old British girl.  I hope you all will do the same.


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Laundry Room After

Monday, March 23, 2015

Well we finished the laundry room and it was every bit as magical as I hoped.  Mostly because there are no longer random pieces of furniture strewn all over the hallway being in my way.  We haven’t quite put the doors back on the closet/room but that is a minor detail that I can’t be bothered with right now.  Because look how glorious!


Please keep in mind that this is obnoxiously difficult to photograph.  The light sources aren’t great and it is super cramped so I couldn’t find an angle that would really capture it’s beauty.  But that’s ok.  As per usual, I forgot to take a real before picture because we get so excited about the project that we jump right in….and then take 5 months to finish. Here is a picture I took while we were painting after I realized that I hadn’t taken a before picture.  There were those standard metal racks at the very top of the closet with lots and lots of crap on them.  And you can see the paint situation.  Also, we got a new washer and dryer because the old ones were made in approximately 1975 and took 5 times to wash and dry one load of clothes.  Obnoxious.


We painted the room the same color as our front living room and downstairs powder room – Benjamin Moore Opal Essence.  The shelving unit and drying rack are from Ikea, the striped bins are from the Container Store, and the painting is by Clare Elsaesser.  And that is actually sugar in the glass container.  Because I thought it would look pretty but didn’t want to pour actual detergent in it.  Don’t tell anyone.




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Feminine Friday: The Ideal Woman

Friday, March 20, 2015

Editor’s note:  I get a little preachy here.  If you don’t feel like a little bit of preachy for your Friday morning, you might want to come back later.

Have you ever become irate about something but wasn’t really sure why?  A couple of months ago when the world exploded over Renee Zellweger’s big appearance chance, I was unreasonably pissed off about it.  At the time I just thought it was because I didn’t even think she looked different and honestly what’s the big deal.  But then I started to dwell on it a little bit.  I thought about how a man basically has to be having a sex change (which is fantastic if it is what they choose and really not anyone’s business) to get anywhere near as much attention, and then I started to think about why.  Why is it that there is always an article about when an actress wears the wrong thing or has cellulite or says something offensive?  Certainly there are also cruel and judgmental articles about men, but can we all agree that the internet is exponentially more mean to women?

I think I’ve finally determined at least a small sliver of the reason.  Our society expects women to look and behave a certain way, and if we don’t live up to this ideal then we are judged for it.  Renee was America’s sweetheart and because she might have felt self-conscious about aging in an unforgiving Hollywood environment and decided to have a little work done (which for the record I STILL don’t see a difference), she was judged.  How dare she.

In the same vain, if famous women do not fit in with the body type that is expected of them and have the audacity to feel good about themselves, or speak openly about being a feminist, the internet tends to go bonkers.  In a recent This American Life podcast, Lindy West spoke about how internet trolling is just a regular part of her life.  In her own words, “I’m a writer and a woman and a feminist, and I write about big, fat, bitchy things that make people uncomfortable. And because I choose to do that as a career, I’m told, a constant barrage of abuse is just part of my job. Shrug. Nothing we can do. I’m asking for it, apparently.”

So what is it that makes an ideal woman?  And who made up the definition?  Must we all be 115 lbs with expertly styled hair, the perfect outfit, and a polite demeanor?  Must we live up to the ridiculous expectations that magazines and TV shows?  Frankly it seems boring and beneath us.  We are more interesting than that, more real.  We have flaws and differences which makes us human beings.  Our society is so obsessed with perfection and the would and should and could that we spend so much time wishing we were someone else that we forget to be ourselves.  And that’s really the best part.

Here is proof that you can break the stupid rules and be freaking fabulous.






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